Changing your situation won’t change your state

The biggest misconception about happiness is that is it the result of our situation. If you have money, a nice house, a relationship, healthy kids and a job that befits your talents you will be happy. If you lose that job or your child gets sick or your relationship breaks down you won’t be happy.

We know this isn’t true. The evidence is everywhere. We operate from an “If only…” perspective and focus our attentions on changing the hygiene factors in our lives - the jobs we do, the place we live, the holidays we go on, the throw cushions we just have to have that will make us feel so much better every time we walk in to the living room….

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And then the dog ate the fruitcake…

Life on the road has many, many advantages: lower costs and being able to go where the wind and the work takes you. As a digital nomad, you can be free from the repetition of the standard 9-5 workweek.

But, life on the road also comes with an amount of unpredictability. While that can be thrilling and adventurous, it can also be stressful and tedious. Wandering around someone else’s back garden waving your laptop in the air, trying to catch a mystical wifi signal to send an email or find something on the internet is agitating and not the best use of anyone’s time.

However, the stresses of ‘mobile emergency’ situations can be limited by three “contingencies” and every digital nomad should have them in place to successfully live and work during their travels.

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The benefits of a nap

I was all geared up for today. I envisioned spending two hours working on my coaching programme pilot, an hour writing a blog for you guys, a bit of business finance, a few items on my to do list and the afternoon doing some sort of French thing. After all - we are in France - we should make the most of it.

But I woke up with a headache. I spent the first hour of my day thinking about my coaching clients - what they need and what I can do for them. Nursing a cup of tea, I was into that. It was fine - fun even. An hour went by in a flash. But then I found myself an hour behind my “schedule”. My headache returned; my daughter woke up and wanted attention; and I tried to power through.

How often do we do that? We have our plan for the day and, whatever happens, we are going to make that plan a reality.

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No More Weekends - 4 practices for unpicking the working week

It’s Good Friday and I’m working.

I’m a little resentful of this even though I have no rational reason to be. Yesterday I stopped working at midday and went to Aberystwyth with Ivy, spending the afternoon in the lovely museum there and rockpooling on the beach. On Wednesday we drove from North Wales to mid-Wales and I barely even checked my email en route.

So why should I feel hard done by if I spend a few hours on Good Friday writing and catching up on my correspondence?

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The 3 ways we decide anything!

There have been plenty of times when I had an idea and didn’t pursue it. For one reason or another I didn’t launch my “E-Male” business (get daily emails and gifts from a virtual boyfriend for a reasonable monthly subscription), I didn’t get hair extensions (I was thinking of re-inventing my look before starting university), and I didn’t buy a holiday home as a bolt hole.

We all have a few brilliant ideas stashed under the metaphorical floorboards. But the process by which you decide which to follow and which to dump normally falls into one of three categories. Being aware of your process can help you embrace your natural decision-making style and not become influenced by other people who tell you to decide their way.

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The Future of Work - Time for a Universal Living Wage?

You might say that the scales falling from my eyes about my unhealthy work habits and my strong desire for a different way of blending my work with the rest of my life was a mid-life crisis, pure and simple.

But I also think there’s a change brewing in the world of work which has conveniently coincided with my personal existential angst. But if we can’t rely on work to be there for us throughout our lives, how do we get those needs met? If working hard doesn’t make our businesses more productive then why are we busting a gut? 

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The 3 Reasons I'm Becoming a Digital Nomad... and you could too.

Do you ever look at those photos on Instagram of bare feet and toasty brown legs, topped and tailed with a laptop on the bottom of the shot and the beach and sea on the top of the shot and think “What a w*@ker”?

Me too. There’s something highly provocative about some lucky dude who has managed to find a way to live somewhere beautiful, combine their work with a lifestyle that makes us all green with envy and get an even tan (no sign of mosquito bites ever!).

But why shouldn’t we all have this opportunity? What if we do?

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